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A Zimbabwe Saying….

June 3rd, 2009

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Every Woman Should Have; Every Woman Should Know

June 3rd, 2009

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A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,

even if she never wants to or needs to…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….

something perfect to wear if the employer,

or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

a youth she’s content to leave behind….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …

a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …..

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….

one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,

and a recipe for a meal,

that will make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..

a feeling of control over her destiny…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

how to quit a job,

break up with a lover,

and confront a friend without;

ruining the friendship…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

that her childhood may not have been perfect…but it’s over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..

whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…

What she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…

Maya Angelou

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect.
It means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections

Ericka

Cancer Update From Johns Hopkins

June 3rd, 2009

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John Hopkins Update
       
AFTER YEARS OF TELLING PEOPLE CHEMOTHERAPY IS THE ONLY WAY TO TRY (’TRY’, BEING THE KEY WORD) TO ELIMINATE CANCER, JOHNS HOPKINS IS FINALLY STARTING TO TELL YOU THERE IS AN ALTERNATIVE WAY.

       Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins :

       1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

       2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person’s lifetime.

       3. When the person’s immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumors.

      4.  When a person has cancer it indicates the person
       has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

       5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

       6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastrointestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

       7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars,and damages healthy cells, tissues, and organs.

       8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

       9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.
       10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

       11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.

       *CANCER CELLS FEED ON:

       a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses, but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in color. A better alternative is Bragg’s aminos or _sea salt_.

       b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in
       the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soy milk cancer cells are being starved.

       c. Cancer cells thrive in an acidic environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.

       d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains, seeds, nuts and fruits help put the body into
       an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth of healthy cells.

               

       To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at temperatures of 104 degrees F
       (40 degrees C).

       e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer fighting properties. Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.
       
       12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines becomes putrefied and leads to more toxic buildup.

       13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body’s killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

       14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence, E ssiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs
etc.) to enable the bodies own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause
apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the body’s normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

       15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A
proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a
survivor.  Anger, un-forgiveness and bitterness put the body
into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving
and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.

       16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment.  Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to
get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is
another means employed to destroy cancer cells.

       1. No plastic containers in micro.

       2. No water bottles in freezer.

       3. No plastic wrap in microwave.

       Johns Hopkins has recently sent this out in its newsletters. This information is being circulated at Walter Reed Army Medical Center as well. Dioxin chemicals cause cancer, especially breast cancer.  Dioxins are highly poisonous to the cells of our bodies. Don’t freeze your plastic bottles with water in them as this releases dioxins from the plastic.
       
       Recently, Dr. Edward Fujimoto, Wellness Program Manager at Castle Hospital, was on a TV program to explain this health hazard. He talked about dioxins and how bad they are for us. He said that we should not be heating our food in the microwave using plastic containers. This especially applies to foods that contain fat. He said that the combination of fat, high heat, and plastics releases dioxin into the food and ultimately into the cells of the body.
       
       Instead, he recommends using glass, such as Corning Ware, Pyrex or ceramic containers for heating food you get the same results, only without the dioxin. So such things as TV dinners, instant ramen and soups, etc., should be removed from the container and heated in something else. Paper isn’t bad but you don’t know what is in the paper. It’s just safer to use tempered glass, Corning Ware, etc.. He reminded us that a while ago some of the fast food restaurants moved away from the foam containers to paper. The dioxin problem is one of the reasons.

       Also, he pointed out that plastic wrap, such as saran wrap, is just as dangerous when placed over foods to be cooked in the microwave. As the food is nuked, the high heat causes poisonous toxins to actually melt out of the plastic wrap and drip into the food. Cover food with a paper towel instead.

 

The message at the bottom of this article read, “This is an article that should be sent to anyone important in your life and more.”  I clarified the information and am posting it for you, the BPM family. Thank you.

 

Ericka
       

      

Building Resiliency

May 27th, 2009

Muhammad-Ali.jpgA grandmother who faced charges for driving her 2 year old granddaughter without a car seat and getting into an accident that placed the child on life support; a son who cut the rope from around his father’s neck and held his limp body until approached by EMT’s to be told, “it’s too late!” ; A 41 year old single male who loses his parents, his wife, and his childhood home all in the same year; A mother who carried her babygirl for 9 months only to lose her during the delivery.  These are tragedies!!!  These are unfortunate situations!!!  These are some of the stories of people I know and work with.  The keyword is WORK.  Somehow, someway, these people lived their tragedies and have managed to cope and live on….And continue to work and live healthy lives.  These people developed “Resiliency” somewhere and managed to tell their stories enough for me to remember them and be thankful for whatever comes into my life.  And no matter how tragic, there is still a wealth of knowledge within these stories that helps other people through their own.  

     Resiliency is the ability to adjust successfully to life’s challenges.  Whether it’s the death of a loved one, job loss, serious illness, or a financial setback, resilient people will draw on their inner strength and rebound more quickly than the less resilient who have a tendency to feel overwhelmed and victimized.

     Resilient folks generally remain stable and can function adequately even when surrounded by disorder  and chaos.  Although they are not immune to stress and may experience temporary changes such as sleeplessness or distraction, they will rebound quickly.  Resiliency serves as a defense against such conditions as depression, anxiety, and post - traumatic stress disorder.  Fortunately, resilience is built on thoughts and beaviors which can be learned.  The following strategies will help:

Establish Realistic Goals:  Instead of setting arduous goals, try smaller ones you can attain.  Do something every day that gives you a sense of accomplishment.

Recognize That Change is Inevitable:  Understanding that change occurs on a regular basis makes it easier to tolerate and adapt to change.  Be flexible and try not to let minor adjustments upset you. Learn to recognize and accept that certain circumstances cannot be changed.

Develop Strong Connections:  Build solid positive relationships with friends and family who can offer support and listen to your concerns.  Civic groups, faithbased organizations, and social groups can provide this support.  Giving time to volunteer and assist others is very beneficial also.

Cultivate a Positive Self-Concept:  Remember how you coped with difficulties in the past.  Build on what helped during tough times and reject the actions which did not help.  Trust yourself to solve problems.  Nurturing your self-esteem allows you to have a sense of control over the difficult situations you will encounter.

Care For Yourself:  Pay attention to your needs and feelings.  With your doctor’s permission, exercise regularly.  Participate in enjoyable activities and take time for hobbies.  Get plenty of sleep and eat well.

Take Action:  Don’t just ignore stresses and problems.  Figure out what needs to be done and how you can accomplish it.

Maintain Perspective:  Look beyond present events to see how circumstances are likely to improve.  Notice subtle ways in which you are beginning to feel better as you deal with difficult situations.

Enjoy Humor:  Laughing and joking are helpful!  Humor doesn’t mean you are in denial or irreverent.  Instead, it is a beneficial coping mechanism.

Offered by the Deparment of Psychiatry in an effort to achieve wellness.

Thank You,

Ericka

Random Question of the Day: Should DEAD BEAT PARENTS lose their driver’s licenses and professional licenses??

May 20th, 2009

This is happening in Georgia and many other states are catching on. What do you think!?

In Maine, they’re taking casino winnings…GEESH!!

 

Let’s hear it…

May is NATIONAL FOSTER CARE Month

May 19th, 2009

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From FosterCareMonth.org:

 

 

 

 

National Foster Care Month originated in 1988 when the National Foster Parent Association persuaded then Senator Strom Thurmond to introduce a resolution to proclaim May as National Foster Care Month. President George H.W. Bush issued an annual proclamation during each year of his presidency, providing an impetus for state, county and city proclamations. The main focus of these early efforts was appreciation and recognition of the tremendous contributions of foster parents across the nation.

 

 

In the 1990’s, National Foster Care Month focused more on the needs of older youth, particularly those about to age out of the system. Under the leadership of the National Foster Care Coalition and Casey Family Programs, the campaign became a significant part of the drumbeat that ultimately resulted in the passage of the Chafee Foster Care Independence Act.   

 

 

National Foster Care Month heightens visibility for the issue and provides a strong outreach and recruitment platform for individuals and organizations working to support children and families throughout the year.

 

Please support…

The Secret to YOUR success…

May 19th, 2009

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Wait, I gotta do some stuff.

Check back this afternoon.

Listening

May 19th, 2009

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When I ask you to listen to me, and you start to give me advice, you have NOT done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

LISTEN: all I ask is that you listen. Not to talk or do - just hear me.

When you do something for me that I can for myself, you contribute to my feelings of inadequacy. But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and go about the business of understanding what’s behind my feelings.

So, please listen and just hear me and if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn - AND THEN I WILL LISTEN TO YOU!

ANONYMOUS

May 2009 - Quote of the Month

May 19th, 2009

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“To err is human, to forgive, divine.”

Alexander Pope

Facebook is…

May 11th, 2009

…different things to different people. I didn’t even know what it was (nor did I care) until around November ‘08.I fought it for awhile, but once the LAYOFF MONSTER came and ate up highly stressful job and SWEET commute, I needed to network…and FAST!!

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One thing Facebook has definitely done is made the world MUCH smaller…for good and bad. I’ve been in touch w/ people I haven’t talked to since grade school and it’s like we’ve never missed a beat. I’ve been in touch w/ people I haven’t talked to since grade school and “me and this m’fer aint vibin right now” (Martin Lawrence/Marcus…BAD BOYS) is the feeling I STILL get.

What’s Facebook to you?

A powerful networking tool?

The King of all Social Media?

A welcomed diversion while pushing buttons for BossMan from 9 to 5?

A stalkers DREAM!?

A cultural phenomenon…like Elvis…or the hulahoop?

Has it killed MySpace? Is it better than Twitter (I can’t figure that thing out)?

Does your child/teen my NOT to friend you…or is that just me?

Do you accept ALL Friend Requests? If so, I have some critical advice for you…DON’T!! It’s all fun and games until somebody gets stalked.

I think you really learn a lot about people by the statues they leave. I’ve learned that a lot of people I know have extremely boring lives…which is not all bad. No news is goods news. No news means no drama. I aint mad at dat!! If you don’t have a lot going on though, keep the status brief. I hate reading a long status, then at the end…no Money Shot!? UGH!!!

Facebook is good and cool and all that, but remember…be careful. It IS referred to as “The Gateway Drug to Social Media”. This is your brain on Facebook. Any questions??